One of the hardest things to get to when I start working with clients is what they want. Not what they think they can have. Not what they think they should want. But what they, deep in their soul, really, really want out of life.
Why is that important? Well, it’s difficult, if not downright impossible, to get what you want if you don’t know what that is. Most of us know what we don’t want – but when confronted with the question, our minds go blank.
Why is it so hard to answer? We’re oversaturated with what everyone thinks we should want. Whether it’s being bombarded with advertising or the influence of family and friends, there’s a desire to conform, to please, to be what you’re told you should be. It’s not easy to reject the status quo, to stand up and say “no thank you, that’s not how I want to live my life.” It feels vaguely disloyal, and it can be isolating if there’s nobody to support you. Not to mention, you may not really believe there’s another way, or if there is, you have no experience with it, as anyone who wants you to “stay put” will gladly point out to you. It’s a lot easier to just go with the flow than to swim upstream, to dismiss that inner voice that keeps crying out for change. But that’s how we end up minimizing, and ultimately abandoning, our dreams.
The good news is, you are not alone, and there are people like me who have been on that journey and will support you and help you find your way. But the first step toward realizing your dream is to be able to answer the question “what do you want,” from your heart and soul and with clarity and conviction. It’s the foundation upon which you can build a life you love.
When you think of transformation, what does that conjure up in your mind? Caterpillars to butterflies? Overweight to slim and trim? Miserable to overjoyed? Of course those are positive transformations. Maybe it goes the other way too? Does it seem scary and overwhelming?
Does your idea of personal transformation involve hitting the reset button, ditching your life as it is now and starting over? Burning all the bridges behind you? Maybe just a few things need tweaking – your job, a relationship, where you live or how you spend your free time.
Transformation doesn’t have to be painful, and it can be done in “baby steps.” Pick one thing, even if it seems small, that you’d like to change. It could even just be the color of the comforter or pillows on your bed. Transforming our living space can have a big impact on our mood and attitude, in how supported we feel.
Spring is a great time to be inspired. Start small. Once you see that it can be a joyful and fulfilling process, you’ll want to go bigger! Remember there are no limitations and anything you want for yourself is available to you. Start moving today toward the life you envision and transform your world – one step at a time!
Whenever we think we need change in our life, it’s natural to look to those we admire and try to be more like them. But sometimes, we can get stuck in trying to be someone we’re not – and it’s not working out for us. So we feel bad, like we’re just not good enough or we weren’t meant to have whatever it is we want that we think we have to be like this other person to have in our lives. Worse, we can start beating ourselves up for not being as smart, or pretty, or social, or whatever trait it feels like they have that we don’t have.
But we don’t need to be someone else to get what we want. What we have to be is truly, fully, ourselves. This is not as simple as it sounds. We have a lot of noise coming at us all the time telling us how we should look and act and think and behave. Some of it’s useful, some of it’s not. We have to learn to discern what’s right for us.
Once you give yourself permission to just be you – not a carbon copy of someone else, even someone you admire greatly – you’ll be inspired in ways you can’t imagine. And, you’ll begin to realize *your* life – the one that makes you happy, that leaves you feeling fulfilled, and brings you the prosperity you seek.