One of the hardest things to get to when I start working with clients is what they want. Not what they think they can have. Not what they think they should want. But what they, deep in their soul, really, really want out of life.
Why is that important? Well, it’s difficult, if not downright impossible, to get what you want if you don’t know what that is. Most of us know what we don’t want – but when confronted with the question, our minds go blank.
Why is it so hard to answer? We’re oversaturated with what everyone thinks we should want. Whether it’s being bombarded with advertising or the influence of family and friends, there’s a desire to conform, to please, to be what you’re told you should be. It’s not easy to reject the status quo, to stand up and say “no thank you, that’s not how I want to live my life.” It feels vaguely disloyal, and it can be isolating if there’s nobody to support you. Not to mention, you may not really believe there’s another way, or if there is, you have no experience with it, as anyone who wants you to “stay put” will gladly point out to you. It’s a lot easier to just go with the flow than to swim upstream, to dismiss that inner voice that keeps crying out for change. But that’s how we end up minimizing, and ultimately abandoning, our dreams.
The good news is, you are not alone, and there are people like me who have been on that journey and will support you and help you find your way. But the first step toward realizing your dream is to be able to answer the question “what do you want,” from your heart and soul and with clarity and conviction. It’s the foundation upon which you can build a life you love.